On Friday April 10th we met "A" for a doctors appointment to determine if they could go forward with an induction. We met at 11 at the clinic. Her blood pressure was quite high and with her past experience with gestational diabetes, they were sure she had it this time as well and instructed us to go to the hospital. She needed to run home to take care of her other 3 children and make sure they were covered for care. We then picked her up from her house and drove her to the hospital. We checked her in at 2pm. and they did an exam and started her on Pitocin at 4pm.
At this time we learned she had JUST told her family about her plans for adoption. We knew this would now become a new part of the decision.
She still seemed content and we just tried to keep her company while we waited for the contractions to begin. she could see them on the monitor but she couldn't feel anything. Her water was broken at 10:20pm. and she then began to feel the contractions. When they kicked in we saw a big change in her. I was rubbing her head and helping her breathe and then I kept getting dizzy and having to sit down ;) even a few dry heaves... so embarrassing.
The baby boy was born at 12:45am on Saturday morning April 11th. 10 pounds 8 ounces and 22.5 inches long at 39 weeks. They had to dislocate his shoulder to get him out and it took a fews seconds for him to make a noise. "A" was unable to care for him as she was in severe pain as her uterus was trying to get back to size and since her medical problems they put her on Magnesium Sulfate which made her very nauseous. They handed the baby to John and I took care of her feeding her ice chips. at about 3:30 we took the baby to Nursery and "A" to her recovery room. I stayed with the baby in the nursery while they took his vitals and gave him a bath and I fed him some formula. I still kept getting dizzy and they found me some apple juice to bring my blood sugar back up. After the dislocation the baby had some xrays and he still was not able to move his right arm. he was very quiet and just seemed hungry. "A" had only had a candy bar that day so he was pretty starved for nutrition.
Around 5:30 he went for a nap and J and I did the same. We checked in on "A" at 7:30am and then went and brought the baby up from the nursery. we spent the day with her and the baby in her room. About 10 her entire family of about 10 people came so J and I excused ourselves to go have a shower and get some food. We knew this would possibly change things. After we got back she acted very normal but still difficult to read. A few hours later "A" received a call from her sister telling her their mother had informed the birthfathers family about the baby and they wanted to come visit. She told them no. I then decided this was getting messy for not only us but for "A" so I called our agency to ask what to do. They said they'd call her in the morning. "A" asked for the baby to go to the nursery about 10:30pm so we all bunked in the same room for the night and was good to get 8 hours of decent rest.
6:30am "A" asked for the nurse to bring the baby up from the nursery and then she put him in bed with her and started feeling him a bottle. We both caught onto this and she almost ignored us that morning. The agency called afew hours later and we stepped out to let them talk. Agency called me a bit later and told us she wanted us to leave her alone with the baby for a few hours so she could think. We went back ina nd she was crying and we let her know to do what she wanted and not think about us that we wanted what a truly best for her and the baby.
We thought about staying in the area as she requested but then realized we should just head home. I think we both knew the outcome and began to feel the same. It's always hard to say it worked out like it should but I think that is truly the case. I think we just really had so much respect for her we wanted what she wanted. Of course we would have loved him like our own but the fact she was willing to do just that makes it all OK.
I had a few moments of anger in the situation but think it was all the secrecy of her keeping her family out knowing they play a large part in her life. I hope they help her as our prayers are for her now. We got back on our feet rather quickly and the perfect scenario is out there for us.
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